Tuesday, June 21, 2011

My Review of Butterfly Cake Topper

Originally submitted at The Knot

A symbol of joy and transformation, the butterfly is a perfect expression of your new life together. Made of glass, this self-standing cake topper features two butterflies encircled in a heart accented with white and silver leaves. 7" w x 6 1/2" h.


Beautiful!

By Michele Argiro from Winchester, VA on 6/21/2011

 

5out of 5

Pros: Theme Oriented, Unique, Well Made, Attractive Design

Best Uses: Theme Weddings, Indoor Receptions, Outdoor Receptions, Large Weddings, Small Weddings, Destination Weddings, Gifts

Describe Yourself: Bride

I absolutely adored my Glass Butterfly Cake topper. It was pretty, elegant, and I have nothing negative to say about it. I am on the hunt for another one, as mine got broken a couple of year ago (not fixable!) I'd love to order a new one if anyone can help I'd appreciate it!

http://momtobella.blogspot.com/

(legalese)

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

I'm searching...

For a new name for my blog. I originally started this with the intention of it being all about my daughter, but I really want it to be about me.. so what do you think the name should be?

I had a point when I started writing this.. then i just started rambling. Pretty standard for my posts.

So.. Apparently my mother is taking off to North Carolina to be with this guy Matt. I don't remember exactly if i've ever posted about it all, but I'll spare you the boring details and tell you the short of it. My Parents are divorce (almost) and my mom has a boyfriend who lives in NC that no one is allowed to talk to, and he's not allowed to talk to us. I don't know why, I can only make assumptions, but I'm sure it has something to do with things she's told him and the fact that i'd blow any falsifications right out of the water. Why would I do that? Because I freaking HATE her stories and lies.

Don't get me wrong. I really do love my mom. In fact, I just heard this news and I'm feeling rather upset about it. I know what will happen. She will go there, and she will never call or email or contact us. She barely contacts us now. The few times I've talked to her in the past couple of months has always been ME calling her. I don't want to hear excuses about she doesn't know when to call. I don't work. Just call. If I don't answer, leave a message. At least I'll see that you've called. Bitter? Just a bit.

This has me thinking about relationships and how they work. There are a lot of different kinds of relationships. Some you have no control over, (well, I really think you have no control over who comes into your life, you only have control over how long they stay in your life.. but that can be discussed later), they are blood relatives, they've always been there, you are forever connected to them in that way. Others you are connected by marriage, and then there are friendships. Lots and lots of 'friendships'. Some are real friends, others you may really just call them acquaintances. I try to be a friend to everyone. Really. I know I'm not perfect. I miss birthdays (I don't forget, I just lose track of the days sometimes!), I forget to call you back, I don't comment enough on Facebook (and really.. why is that even an issue?). BUT - I'm always here for you. I've been evaluating the relationships in my life. Who do I talk to the most. What relationships are beneficial to me emotionally, meaning, do they make me be a better person? And.. what friendships am I not being a good friend in? And what relationships am I doing all the 'work'.

There are people in my life I really enjoy being around. These are the friendships I'm evaluating. Is it mutual? Do we connect with each other, or is one person doing all the 'connecting'? This can be a problem, this one person connecting thing. Why? Because there is something lacking. Either the person doing the 'work' is trying to hard, or is being taken for granted, or maybe both. The person not 'doing anything'.. are they even interested? Do they care? I'm not saying it has to be a constant "my turn/your turn" back and forth, just.. are we reaching out to EACH OTHER?

I feel like I'm not able to get across my feelings very clearly. I feel like with some people inm y life I'm the one who always asks to see them, or tries to make plans. Really, it doesn't bother me that much, but, it does get to me sometimes. I know there may always be an 'open invitation' but really, lets take a moment to perhaps re-extend that offer?

Everything comes back to communication. And then it comes back to my own feelings. I could just say forget you and move on. I could talk to you, and say "I'm really hurt" or "I feel like this relationship isn't as important to you as it is to me" but then do I come off sounding needy and stalker-ish? Well. the truth is, I do nothing. I will continue to be there for you. VERY rarely have I cut off a person from my life. I believe you are in it for a reason. Even the few friendships I have ended, I have only done so for my own emotional health and well-being, but that door is never closed. All you have to do is try.

So - to those who that last part refers to - You know how it ended. You know what was said. I told you then and I told you now, the door is never closed. We only need to revisit what happened, because we both got hurt, and sort it out. Only then will we be able to work on our friendships.

So anyhow. My point is - I feel like I'm going to lose my mom because she makes no effort to talk to me. I have frie3nds whom I do all the calling, and I sometimes feel like our relationship isn't as important to them as it is to me. And I have fabulous friends who, call on me as I call on them, and we lean on each other, and we accept each other and can be ourselves with each other. Even if we don't see each other often, when we do it's like time never passed. You know who you are.